21 Things I have Learnt in 21 Years

So tomorrow I turn 22. Yes I probably will caption some lyrics to that Taylor Swift song on my IG I can only do it once right?! However, it got me thinking of all the things I have learnt, accepted and how I have grown in the last 21 years and even in the last year. I came up with a list of 21 things I have learnt, some are just advice others are things I plan to do in the near future;

1. You’re whole life doesn’t have to be figured out.

I finished University this time last year and am I any closer to figuring out what I want to do. Nope!

2. It’s okay to want to quit your job and be reckless sometimes

I feel like now I am in my twenties all these life decisions should be happening. When in reality all I want to do sometimes is quit the job, by the ticket and get the hell out of here! One day I will do this I promise..

3. Changing careers a million times won’t destroy your job prospects – who cares if you did 8 months in a coffee shop?!

4. Never be too afraid to do the thing you truly want to do because it isn’t the easy route or you just don’t know how to start

Advice from my mum she said she never wants me or my sister to look back with regret at the choices we make

5. Your happiness is just as important as others

6. Self love is so important to your health 

7. It’s okay to stop talking to people who no longer have a positive effect on your life.

I have learnt this more in the last 6 months. Even if someone hasn’t done anything intentionally cruel, the way they act and their attitude towards you can actually be hurtful without you realising for a long time. I learnt that the hard way…

8. Feeling like you are ready to fly the nest doesn’t make you a bad persons (You may have seen my other blog post When It’s Time To Fly The Nest )

9. Counting calories doesn’t have to be an everyday thing drink the wine, eat the pizza and know that no matter what you weigh you will still have an AMAZING holiday!

10. Planning your life won’t make it any easier! The script will always change

11. Live in the now it’s all we have

12. It’s okay for some chapters to end without anything said at all. Whether this be with parents, friends or loved ones. Sometimes it does just end.

13. Don’t regret anything that makes you who you are.

14. Forgive yourself you’re only human

15. It’s okay to not have a close friends right now maybe it just takes times

16. Apply for the damn TEFL course get out of this job and move country!

17. Never not do anything out of fear or past failures

18. Not every change is a failure and it doesn’t have to define us

19. Be who you are, not who the world expects you to be

20. Someday you will look back on your journey and know the moments you were low or the job you hated were all just learning curves in life!

21. In a year from now I hope things are different I hope I have got out of this job, applied and completed the TEFL course. Be in some new part of the world. And most of all be happy with the choices I’ve made and the life I am living!

I urge everyone to write a list! It actually has made me feel more motivated than ever. I hope everyone has a good day I’ll be drinking wine in the sun, celebrating being another year older. Also watching England in the World Cup it has to be played on my birthday doesn’t it!

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Post-Grad blues are real

So who knew post- grad blues was actually a thing? The year after graduation people can feel at their worse. I for one sure got it. You have so many expectations and excitement about graduating and becoming a “real adult” that when it finally comes around and then your working a dead beat job thinking wtf am I doing with my life?!

It’s easy to get lost in a job you hate and this can create a downward spiral for the first 6 months of this job I had been living my life out of my overdraft, drinking every weekend and going out at every opportunity sounding familiar? Basically living like a university student all over again.

Something then clicked on me and I realised I’m 21 turning 22 in two weeks where the hell has that time gone? Anyway… I realised I don’t want to be stuck in this dead beat job with no prosepects for improvement and colleagues that treat me no better than a piece of shit crap on the floor. I realised I’m too damn good to be working in a job where I am in sales I’ve never wanted to work in sales! So I started to plan and am starting to save. Admittedly I still go out and drink and am not always saving to the best of my abilities, but I’m young dumb and broke? So that’s okay I guess. HOWEVER I am saving, I have a plan.

Originally I said if I’m still in this job in September hand in my notice… well September isn’t far away I think I will still be in this job. But by January I plan to quit this job that is my true cut off point. And I know you shouldn’t wish your life away and I have read all the self health books under the sun. So I am making the most of this summer and continue to hope that graduation blues will pass life will improve and this is just a stop along the way. I also found out I got a first class honours this time a year ago who knew life could be so cruel to remind me on Facebook haha.

Anyway still trying to remain strong! Have a good weekend!

Self love

Self love – regard for one’s own well-being and happiness.

It’s so easy to forget about ourselves sometimes because we consider it selfish or believe that we should think of others before ourselves. Especially with the land of dating apps and moral high ground. When we should be putting ourselves first we end up putting ourselves last.

I am no stranger to this. I even said it to my sister recently. She had been on a bad tinder date the guy was an ass, I said you just need to take some time away. Focus on yourself and self-love. I always remember this quote “Make yourself a priority. At the end of day you are your longest commitment“. It’s easy to forget that sometimes when we live in a world where we are always meant to put others first.

Recently I’ve tried to put myself first more, focus on my health, my personal goals and stop defending people who have done me wrong. I’ve also learnt to forgive myself for things I regret, because self-love isn’t about hating yourself due to past mistakes. It’s about learning to let go.

Ironically all my big intentions this week started so well. Monday morning; I woke up at 6 am and decided I would start running before work. I got up went for a run, I felt good and thought this is the best way to start the week. Monday night I was throwing up and have had a stomach bug for the last two days. Sometimes self-love is more important than anything else. I for sure have learnt that this week!

Anyway there is always next week to try again… back to work tomorrow hope your week wasn’t as tragic as mine!

Tonight Josephine

Sometimes it’s hard to be positive all the time! One thing I do love is going out with friends for a good cocktail when life gets too much! We recently went to a cocktail bar called ‘Tonight Josephine’ it is the ultimate girls night in London. If you’re ever near Waterloo Station I would definitely recommend. The place is very pink as the pictures show! The music is basically independent women from Beyoncé to Taylor Swift. And of course me and my sisters personal favorite TLC – No scrubs classic!

The bathrooms had celebrity mug shots on the wall from Lindsay Lohan to Justin Bieber. One of the cocktails also came with a free badge (it’s the napoleon in case you ever go). There is also a whole story about the reasoning behind the bar.

Here’s the full link to website for a good read;  http://www.tonightjosephine.co.uk

We danced the night away and had so much fun. It’s nice to get away from the troubles of life and drink a few cocktails! If you’re ever in London I would definitely recommend this bar, especially during happy hour! Once again I abandoned my blog I will get better eventually!

So True!

Declining Job Offers And 21st Century Dating

Recently life has been a time! I had an interview for a new job, the company were how could one say it.. in a shit storm? The company had a lot of office politics that was supposedly improving. I found out yesterday I had got the job, 4 weeks after applying. I had a think and I just knew i wasn’t ecstatic. I spoke to my mum about it as you do with all big life decisions talk to the parents they still know best even when you’re 21 and actually classed as an adult now. She said; you always have a gut instinct you know when something isn’t right. And it’s true surprisingly I do. I knew deep down I needed to stick uni out, I knew this job was never going to be a forever job and I knew this job interview didn’t make me feel any more confident. So today I rejected a job. Yes it was slightly more money, but I knew if I stick to the plan, I would be out of this job come January. And I know you shouldn’t wish your life away, but as the quote I kept saying wrong i didn’t want to go out of the frying pan into the fryer… i thinks that’s right their was something about a saucepan when I kept saying it out loud. So yeah. That’s a shocker.

Next 21st century dating I am on tinder and bumble. I have conformed to this new era we supposable live in. I don’t like it, don’t approve of it and still have high hopes I will meet someone the traditional way in a bar or out and about. BUT until such time comes I will be swiping right until I find my true match… yeah pretty tragic. Anyone in a relationship stay in it! Their are dark times ahead.

So until my life falls apart again thanks for reading!

When You Learn To Let Go

Life as a uni student was hard especially my second year. I had some issues. I read a book recently (another one) I’m just full of wisdom lately. It said you need to let go of the past and accept it for what it was. And it’s true I don’t think I had for a long time I had let it burden my present whenever I spoke about it. I also read this quote that was very apt…

So now I’m back at this university visiting friends as they finish their finals year. You may have seen my previous post about going back to my old uni Start living in the present it felt different then. This time it feels different

I’m not letting the girl walk all over me. I stand with conviction and have told them about the dreams I’m pursuing with strength. Admittedly I am currently awake sitting on their sofa at 8am. This is because 1. I get up early to go to work everyday how’s a girl meant to change that pattern and 2. It is for once really hot in England so I have to embrace this weather! I just feel different about everything it’s like yes that was a part of my life and this is the right now, but the past isn’t hurting me anymore. I’m also not letting the people. The Kesha song has popped in my head! But it’s true I have learned to let it go…

Will The Stars Ever Align?

So I’m back. After a lot of soul searching. I decided to reignite the blog, which I was willing to let go. I won’t promise to upload more as well we all know how that goes…

So as the title states I have recently been feeling like I am never fully satisfied. I always want more, or I’m waiting for something better and never truly living in the moment. Trust me I understand how ungrateful and sad that is! I worry I will look back in years to come and think where did my life go?!

My Mum gave me this book to read. Cosmic ordering; Guide to life, love and happiness. I wouldn’t say I am completely changed! But because of this book I am planning to make changes…trust me I was apprehensive at the start.

Cosmic ordering – the book explains it better; Cosmic ordering; is the ‘powers that be’ in order to make your wishes and desires come true. However, it requires intention, belief and desire to break old patterns. Stick with me…

Anything you’re hoping for whether it be a new relationship, a new job, or like me just changes in your life. By being open minded and willing for things to change through cosmic ordering you are allowing the energy to flow and for new events, jobs, relationships to enter your life.

I read my last paragraph I know I even think it sounds crazy, but when I thought about situations that happen. Especially interacting with new people. How did that happen? I never see it coming, or plan to meet someone knew, but it happened anyway. It can also work with hopes and dreams for the future. I am still currently saving for the TEFL (Teach English as a foreign language) yep! I have a goal, a dream and rather than doubting it, or questioning whether it’s possible every day I am a step closer to making it possible. The book also recommends visualising already achieving this goal. (This supposable lets the energy flow in the invisible world). After thinking about it, I realised yes I have visualised me already achieving this dream.

We rely on the invisible world for our thoughts and feelings; love, anger and happiness. These are not objects or visible things that we can see with our eyes. So why can’t a bit a positivity let us achieve our goals? For anyone stuck or trying to make changes I definitely recommend this book! There are also some good quotes listed below;

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent” Eleanor Roosevelt

“Dance like nobody’s watching, love like you’ve never been hurt, sing like nobody’s listening, live like it’s heaven on earth”Mark Twain

Who knows maybe one day the stars will align, but for now a bit more positivity no matter how bad the past is can’t hurt anyone!

I also bought another book today “Feel the feat and do it anyway”Susan Jeffries. We will see how this one goes! Until next time xx